Default parameter in function to a reference in c++ unordered_map

I am a JS dev and to implement this function header,I do :

function gridTraveler(m,n,memo={})

Here,I know that the object would be passed by reference in JS.

So in C++,I decided to do:

int gridTraveler(int m,int n,std::unordered_map<int,int>& memo = {})

But I get an error : "initial reference to a non const must be an lvalue".

How should I pass the default parameter to the function as well as pass the hasmap by reference?

NOTE:I would be editing the memo object by adding in keys and value in the function body

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